Fur-Parents Are Parents Too!

Fur-Parents Are Parents Too!

My son, Fur-Daughter, and Myself

So I see a lot of comments where pet owners are not parents. Why? Puppies, Kittens, Cats, Dogs they're all like children, Aren't they? You have to bathe, feed, potty train them, give them lots of love and affection. They are very much like children if not more so. My puppy gets into everything and makes a mess wherever she goes, just like my son does. I have friends who would die for their pets. their pets are their babies. My "Pessa" is MY baby girl and I tell my son I have 2 babies. Him and her. so now when we all cuddle he says "mommy's two babies" He loves his fur-sister and always wants to be around her. So I'm having trouble seeing why pet owners like my friends and myself can't consider our pets our children or our "fur-babies". Everyone says dogs and cats are like children but they can't be "mommy's girl" or "daddy's boy"? That makes no sense. I say hell with it. If you have a pet you love with all your heart that you consider it a fur-child celebrate Mother's day or Father's day you ARE a parent to a child it just so happens to have paws and a tail instead of hands and feet. I consider myself lucky to be the mother of a person as well as a fur-baby. I love them both!

Free The Breasts!

So did you know a cheap bra at Wal*Mart can cost $15.00? They really only last a couple weeks On average they cost $40.00 and last maybe a couple months. That's a burden for a big chested girl to go without a bra. I'm DD and I only own 2 bras at this present time because the cheap ones suck and the expensive ones I can't afford. The Bra Industry is a multi-million dollar industry and you know what? They can do that because of a women's need for bras they can make us pay absurd amount of money for one lousy bra. But these days more and more women are "Freeing" their breasts so to speak. They no longer wear bras. It's summer you can't see me or other big chested women doing that thanks to perspiration from skin touching areas. But alas many fortunate women, or the "Small Chested" women can get away with it. Almost makes me jealous! Heh, and men say we have NO worries in the world, only if they knew right?

Internet Trolls and Goblins

Internet Trolls started back in forum threads. The science behind them is boredom and as they say "miserable loving company" I know many of you have come across these creatures. Since I began my blog I've come across a couple and they flood to Facebook. Were they unloved as a child? Maybe it is boredom, regardless they seem to be the most heartless species. Not even human to a point even though they look like us but their hearts tend to be so cold and they get off on insulting people and trying to expose them. I will admit they used to bother me a great deal but that was until I realized they are talking hot air. None of their insults make sense or even have a personal value to the cruel things they think up. They are best described as cyber bullies. Cyber bullying will always be out there. It will always be the top reason for teen suicide rates being high and some adults even end their own lives. You just have to remember that these words are meant to hurt you and rise above it. Seek support in a group, or with friends. You can run from the Trolls and Goblins but you can't hide from them. To the victims of Trolling and cyber bullying, you are not alone! Feel free to talk to me I've dealt with various bullying most of my life and I can help you.

Modern VS. Vintage

So today I've been thinking, what happened to old time romance? Wooing a girl and going steady? Now it's online dating and "here's a picture of my d**k". My parents have been married for 40+ years, now a days people get divorced in a year. I may just be old fashioned when I say this but am I wrong for wanting a guy to buy me flowers on a first date instead of condoms? Ladies and gentleman are a rare and possibly dead breed. What happened to the women who waited for their man to come back from war? Now most of them soldiers get "Dear John" letters because they found another man or woman since Women can serve now too... Girls from back in the day in my opinion were classy they were conservative and feminine NOT that being feminine is a bad thing but it seems as time goes on women wear less and less because the idea of being classified as "sexy" has a new meaning these days. It's all about chest and backsides hanging out and heels of pumps getting longer. What the f**k happened to the old days? I was born in the wrong era. Where a man would walk up to a woman and say "care for a movie?" OR "may I have this dance?" Instead of sending a text saying "let's hang out" or "netflix and chill?" The girls need a lot more self respect as well. Bodies are meant to be explored not the goods displayed for the world to see. Maybe that's just my opinion though. I saw a meme on facebook where a little old lady who's been married for 50 years gave out her secret. "when we were born we learned when something is broken you fix it not throw it in the trash." The world has changed so much and I don't think that much for the better. Oldies music and comedy was better too! How I love to watch Dean Martin sing in his collaborations with funny man Jerry Lewis, Or listen to a little Judy Garland or Nat King Cole while i lay down. Things just aren't how they used to be and this makes me sad. we should bring back some of the ways of the 40s or 50s don't you think?

You're So Gay, and That's OKAY!

You're so gay, and that's okay!

Why is there so much hate towards the LGBT community? Honestly, I've never met a group of people with bigger hearts THAN The LGBT Community. I've been around the LGBT community since first grade. I had a feeling my best childhood friend Vishal was going to be gay, and you know what? That was completely A O.K! I am straight... well maybe bi-curious I have been with a couple females but I was young and taken advantage of and didn't really know what I was doing. In my adult life I've had a crush on a few of my female friends to the point one of them is known as my "Straight Lizzie Lover" and another is my soul sister whom I actually asked out once and she turned me down but we've remained close friends. There's also been another girl who had a crush on me and only agreed to a 3 sum with me and my ex to get to me. he wasn't so happy when he found that out haha! she and I are still friends even though that encounter never came to pass. Also there is nothing I wouldn't do to Halle Berry or Salma Hayek either! I work with a gay man and he makes every day at work entertaining somehow with what he wears to work or things he says. he really has no filter. I can't forget my brother from another mother! Things he says are straight up out there. We once had a conversation about Butt Babies on our way to a spur of the moment trip to Cedar Point. All in all you're missing out on amazing people if all you do is show hate towards these big hearted and fun loving group of people! All they want in life is to have fun and live their lives to the fullest and I'd rather be around them than a straight person any day!

Epidural or Ol' Natural?

   Epidural or Natural Birth?

Which do you prefer, Epidural or Natural child birth? I've had both and i'd have to say I prefer natural because when I was able to cope with the pain of a natural childbirth with my 3rd child I bonded with him on so many more levels than my other two. This does not mean my level of love varies from child to child but we just seem much closer in everything.

When I was seventeen I became pregnant with my first child. I gave birth when I was eighteen on April 3rd, 2007 and I had an Epidural. I was afraid of the pain of natural child birth mainly because of media and how horrific they exaggerate it to be. I saw my first live child birth when I was in fifth Grade. we went to the Health Museum in Cleveland, Ohio and I think in a way it traumatized me. But The Epidural during contractions was painful in it's own right. After the epidural was in it was honestly smooth sailing. Some call it the Easy Road of birth. There has always been controversy to pain medications during child birth. On Friday March 13th, 2009 I was blessed with my second child. Epidural? no. Instead I was on pain medication with him so I felt the pressure and a moderate amount of pain. My third and (for now) final child was born May 11th, 2012. It was by far the hardest pregnancy I had but maybe that's just because i'm a big baby when it comes to most things. I had killer motion sickness which was awful because I worked doing a paper route with my mother driving around from 2:30 am - 6:50 am in a van delivering papers. Only things that would keep me from vomiting in the van during work was if I drank Arizona's Watermelon Cocktails and snacking on my huge bag of Skittles my mother bought me. How those helped is as beyond me as it may be to you. It makes no sense when sugar usually makes nausea worse. The morning of his birth we went to the hospital while I was contracting. The Nurses insisted I get an Epidural or at least pain medication for the contractions. I completely refused all remedies they had offered me; my mother even tried to convince me to accept that I wouldn't be a bad person if I did comply with the medicine suggestions but of course I became stubborn and insisted not to. I held the rail of the bed tight and cried in pain. I could feel everything 10 fold. The baby coming into the birth canal, the crowning, His head and body forcing it's way out of it's 9 month home. When I saw him I never saw anything so beautiful since 2009 I cried tears of joy because that pain I went through gave me a little gift from God to cherish and take care of. It was more than worth it and as soon as he looked into my eyes the next day I was in love. I still look at him with adoration even though he's a rambunctious little four year old now. I believe the natural birth had something to do with it. But whether or not you have a natural birth does not determine what kind of parent you will be. pain of labor doesn't decide that. The amount of love in your heart does however. Love your child/children with every last breath you take.